fuckyeahfamousblackgirls:

Clair Huxtable sets Elvin straight

ah lordy, how much I miss this show. Need to rewatch asap.

Clair Huxtable is my hero. and oh so beautiful.

(via indulgedinboredom)

That amazing moment when your white friend fucks up but you have a peaceful and respectful discussion about it.
Rare, but oh so rewarding.

He listened, and now not only has his eyes been opened, but I feel much better in knowing that he understands me now. We both realize that he might fuck up again, but I can trust him to own up to it and make things right. 

Sometimes, when it’s not your place, just sit down, shut up and listen.

I would not have had the courage or words to deal with this situation without tumblr, so thank you to all of you who teach me something new every day.

I look forward to listening and learning more about issues that I am not educated in.
Keep it coming guys!

radfemme:

corrupter-of-words:

latinagabi:

If your atheism is; misogynistic, racist, homophobic, transphobic, or any other type of bullshit bigotry, we ain’t comrades.

If your feminism isn’t Intersectional, we ain’t friends.

If your feminism isn’t Transfeminist, we ain’t buds.

Just need to get this out of the way so there is no confusion or awkwardness.

huh, I don’t really understand this. If your friend is being misogynistic, racist, homophobic, transphobic, or saying bigoted things, that’s when your friend needs you the most. Not being friends with people who don’t completely agree with you isn’t activism. It’s just you forming a safe, cozy little place for yourself where you will never be challenged - which, I admit, can have its merits. And if it’s what you need right now that’s cool, and you definitely have a right to that. But I’ve never been in a place where that’s possible, and I’ve never really wanted that.

I more than understand that you sometimes have to cut people out of your life if they’ve really, really fucked up - but choosing your friends is a luxury that some people just don’t have. And when I see this, I think about my family. I want to be friends with my family. They are often all of the above in problematic behavior. That doesn’t mean I’m not friends with them, or that I don’t have to live with them, or that it isn’t useful to try to challenge some of their viewpoints (carefully, and when I’m able).

I guess I kind of envy this viewpoint, but I view it as a little idealistic.

umm… this isn’t about cutting people out of my life.

This is about me being sick of the atheist community saying bigoted crap and thinking that because we have something in common I’m going to go along with it and not call them out on it because of ‘solidarity’

This is about people who call themselves feminists but then refuse to acknowledge that for POC it’s more than just sexism we’re dealing with. It’s for folk who call themselves feminists who are transphobic and refuse to acknowledge that to be a woman you don’t have to have a vagina. 

This is for people who better realize that I will call them out on their bullshit, not that I will cut them out of my life, but if you refuse to educate yourself on these issues and refuse to sit down and listen, then yes I will cut those people out of my life, because as a bisexual atheist female POC I have enough shit to deal with every day, and I don’t have the patience to explain my struggles to people or why they shouldn’t be bigoted. The only responsability I have, is to myself, to stay sane through all this crap. And to friends and people who want to actually learn a thing or two, I’m happy to talk about it. But for the people who choose to live in their little bubble, I owe them nothing. 

EDIT:  “It’s just you forming a safe, cozy little place for yourself where you will never be challenged”
That is some privilege talk right there, you think because I don’t want to have bigots in my life I don’t have to go through it? honey, my life is a challenge every fucking day, I have to put up with bigoted shit every day of my life, I will never be able to walk away from being a POC, from being a female… Not one day goes by when I’m not ‘challenged’ Not one day goes by where the colour of my skin doesn’t affect how people see me, not one day goes by where I am not harrassed in the street like I am not worth respect. Me not wanting bigots in my private circle isn’t about being ‘in a cozy little place’ it’s about self preservation. I get that shit whether I like it or not, so I don’t want to deal with it when I’m with the people I should be trusting the most. 

GUHHH, you are waaaaay too gorgeous!!!

ee thaaanks, but you’re crazy :p

Also to everyone else, I know I’ve been absent for a few days now, I have been without a computer and not home, buuut I willl be back hopefully tomorow :)

You’re all super duper xx

why have I not seen this video before. This is the hottest thing, holy mother of everything that is sexy. I am too turned on, and a little high.