I don’t really know how to start this post, I guess it will come out as a big mess.
This afternoon I went to meet some of my family members at our family business (my aunt and uncle own an internet cafe), they were waiting for the last customers to leave so we could go Christmas shopping. It was a beautiful day, so I decided to sit outside and listen to some music, I put my headphones on and tried to get some sun. I noticed a man sitting in a car parked across the street, I figured he must have been waiting for someone. 20 minutes later this man gets out of his car and starts walking towards the store, he stopped in front of me and basically this happened.
Him: Hi, just wanted to say you’re very beautiful
me: thank you
Him: I’ve been watching you for a while
me: *at this moment I’m feeling awkward and I say nothing*
him: I saw you leave your house, and I thought you were so beautiful I decided to follow you here.
me: *I freeze*
him: stand up so I can take a better look at you
him: I want to take you out, I’d like to talk to you
me: *still frozen*
him: I’ll come back later so we can talk.
I spent the entire car ride trying not to cry, this man admitted that he followed from my house, watched me for 20 minutes and knows where I work. He even had the fucking nerve to ask me to stand up for him so he could inspect me like I was merchandise. The fact that he had no problem admitting all this, as if it was a normal thing to do is so sickening. I’m terrified.
THIS is rape culture.
THIS is why I need feminism.